Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Can People Change?
Today, I got into a discussion with a fellow girlfriend about this topic. She was convinced that people cannot, and will not, change.
I'm not sure it is such a black and white statement. I have seen people evolve over the years, seen life splash different colors on them, seen them turn into swans from ugly ducklings....
I'll even go as far to say that somebody's "fundamental" core can transform. It all depends on the trigger for the change, rather than the change itself.
We'd all be lying if we said our relationships haven't altered us in some way or another. True, this is the inevitable way of nature, but my dad gave me wonderful advice about a year ago. "Don't ever be with someone in the hopes of anything changing." His statement was pertaining to marriage, but I think it applies for pre-marital relationships as well.
Even though men have changed for women, it is when they themselves are determined to. What I've learned is that suggesting/asking/pleading/forcing anyone to change will never work. They have to want it before anything will happen.