Monday, November 23, 2009

What I've Learned...

There will be a series of posts with little nuggets of wisdom from many of the amazing women in my life: mothers, friends, cousins, classmates, etc.

Please feel free to contribute if you have something you'd like to share! It can be funny, touching, inspiring, anything! I am loving everything I've gotten so far!

What I've Learned:

"A man always softens when he has a daughter." M.D.

"Your eyebrows look the best when you're not seeing anybody." P.M.

"Break ups are never easy the second, third, or fourth time around." S.P.

"There will come a point in your life when you realize that you can be very different and similar from your parents at the same time." D.D.

"Hair removal takes over my life." S.M.

"Sometimes you only want someone because they don't really want you." J.P.

"As you grow older, the drama in your life subsides, leaving room for only relationships that bring peace and comfort to you. You might even see that you mistook drama for something more than it really was. " C.K.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Go On a Date With Yourself...Preferably on 5th Avenue

After a lunch meeting, I allowed myself to be swallowed by the streets of New York. Specifically, by Fifth Avenue. For some reason, I found it charming to feel insignificant, to bleed in with the city, absorb its pulse. (The only thing that made me stand out was my hair, which was unfortunately sprayed with about 734274 layers of humidity and probably poked a few eyes out.)

For once, I wandered aimlessly, just to see where I would end up and unsurprisingly,my 5'2 frame came face to face with the powerful yet inviting lions of The New York Public Library. Can I just say, I'd be elated living there...forever, even if I am confined to some dusty, forgotten corner. For some reason, I was submerged in a wave of nostalgia for Oxford. I had no idea I could feel such a longing for a place; always assumed those pangs were confined to people. Anyway, it's very possible that libraries and I are in a life long honeymoon period. Hopefully I find someone like the Beast who happens to just have a spare, monumental one around in his Gothic mansion. A talking candlestick and clock would be a nice throw in, too. And who doesn't love that adorable teacup?!

If there's any piece of advice I could offer, it would be to take yourself out on a date, preferably in a foreign place. Loneliness can be so scary and paralyzing. Learning how to be comfortably alone, whethere it's living alone, eating alone, shopping alone, etc. is one of the most uplifting things I believe anyone can do for themselves.

Random notes:
*I've always been a die hard accessories girl: handbags, jewelry, shoes (in order of importance). This is great for me right now since big necklaces, known as "statement necklaces" are in. They're definitely helping me spice up my plain black tees and dresses!
*Learned how to play a little bit of "Waiting on the World to Change" (J.Mayer) on the guitar!
*First photography class this Saturday!!
*The little messages inside Dove chocolates make my day
*Pumpkin cheesecake, Pumpkin Spice Latte, and Pumpkin scented candles are amazing!

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Soul Soothing With a Best Friend

Quote by Maya Angelou:

"Every woman should know where to go

Be it her best friend's kitchen table or a charming inn in the woods,

When her soul needs some soothing."

On Sunday, I pulled an all nighter with my best friend of 15 years. Yeah, we're pretty much married by now and have been through it all. We talked on the phone every day through elementary, middle, and high school, lived together for four years of college, and are now moving to NYC at the same time. We are as different as we are similar, sort of like those Venn Diagrams my teachers drew on chalkboards, with a generous overlap between the two circles.

I could spend hours analyzing the gossamer threads of our bond, but I like to believe that it comes down to one simple fact: we enjoy talking to each other. It is a uniquely open friendship where our words do not have to be measured before they are poured out. We tell each other things that other people would probably never say, things like "your haircut kind of sucks", "it's time to get your eyebrows threaded", "what were you thinking when you liked him," etc.

As I slouched on her bed and she hung up her freshly dry cleaned clothes, we got onto the topic of life landmarks: college, job/grad school, marriage, children, etc. Our next landmark is marriage and if it is not done by the socially acceptable age of, say, 27, then people start to think something is wrong.

I asked her why she thought our society defined success as accomplishing these life landmarks.

"Well, it's always been like that," she said in her didatic tone, the same one I first heard when we were in sixth grade and she taught me how to shave my legs.
"What do you mean?" I asked.

"We're always looking to what's next, striving for the next step. Even in school, it was the next exam, next semester, next year. This isn't really that different. Our eyes are always pointed forward. It's a flaw in our race."
As with many of our conversations, I felt like I needed to jot down these little notes on a pink Post It and save them for later, incorporate them into my own life. Perhaps I do need to stop always looking to the future and just be. After all, I have learned the hard way that you can map out a plan of your life all you want, but that doesn't mean it will be followed.

On a lighter note, all my shows are going to the shithole. Or maybe they always were and I chose to just ignore that?
Gossip Girl: What is up with that threesome? And this whole Queen Jenny thing is getting dumber by the episode.

Grey's Anatomy: The acting is becoming as stale as the trite plotlines. I don't like any of the Mercy West people.

The Hills: Audrina is an idiot. And why is anyone attracted to Justin Bobby?!

The only ones I'm content with are Private Practice and The City.

A New Week!

I've decided that I prefer to start my weeks on Tuesdays. Yup, Tuesdays sound better, much less depressing and agonizing than Mondays.

Plus, I've got something to look forward to on Tuesdays: guitar lessons! I've been supposedly learning chords, but the main thing I've really learned is that my fingers are SO weak. I'm always made fun of for having tiny, dainty hands, but MAN, what a hindrance! I cut off my nails and now have the telltale indentations of strumming on my fingertips.

Anyway, this year is about accomplishing the things I always wanted to do but could never get around to (that's where the guitar lessons came from). It's all a part of my bigger goal to not have a life of regrets. I am aware that these years (my twenties) are the final ones that are truly my own.

Once I move to New York, I'm hoping to:

*Start Hindustani voice lessons (I am trained in Carnatic, so I think Hindustani would be the ideal blend of a complement and challenge)
*Photography classes (Before I invest in a sleek camera, I really want to know exactly how to use practicing on my dad's right now)
*Attend at least one 10 day silent meditation camp
*Finish the second novel
*Write five songs (am halfway through the first one)
*Spend time with my older guy cousins (I love having two younger siblings, but I've always had some weird void for a big brother...someone to be irrationally overprotective of me, play catch with me, and judge the guys I like)

One of my role models, Dr. Majmudar, wisely once said, "A trait may be in the chromosomes, but that does not mean it will flourish." Of course, we have learned in biology class that genes have to be expressed in order to affect the individual, but Dr. Majmudar was referring to talents, passions, and interests. If I keep desiring to leave a unique mark on the world, I need to go forward and do it, not just hope that my innate capabilities will emerge and get it done someday.

Parental Quote of the Day: "Girls from good households do not talk to boys on the phone past 10 p.m."

Melodramatic Dilemma of the Day: My gmail perfect usage is increasing everyday! I'm already using 60% of my 7389 MB without even putting all of my writing in there.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

I Love...

I Love........

Songs that take you back to the year they were popular:
*N'Sync's "This I Promise You" (middle school dances; specifically, wearing oversized glasses and having to explain the concept of slow dancing to my parents, then being rejected by my crush anyway)

*"The Thong Song" (another end of middle school hit)

*"I Need a Girl" (Part 1&2---those dramatic high school summers....sigh)

*Mariah Carey's "Hero" (one of the first songs I sang in public; at my best friend's Sweet Sixteen)
*"Livin La Vida Loca" (Yeahhhhhhhhhh Ricky Martin)

Starbucks Gingerbread Latte

My pink Burberry earmuffs (one of the BEST presents EVER)! <3

Sex and the City episodes (NEVER fail to put me in a good mood; especially the one where Samantha babysits Brady, the one where Charlotte meets Trey, the finale, the one where Carrie and Aiden get into a fight...okay, maybe all of them do the job)
Black tights paired with black heels: They do such a great job in elongating legs! One small (insert pun joke here) victory for all us petite girls out there!

Chelsea Handler.
I always laugh during Chelsea Lately; her book, Are You There, Vodka? It's Me, Chelsea is next on my reading list.

Is it Worth the Weight?

Being healthy, really healthy, is more difficult that I realized. I have been trying to eat well and exercise on a daily basis. My effort is tangibly paying off, but at the same time, those cravings are quite intense!

The problem with staying up late is eating as you stay up late. This can become very hard to avoid as hunger pangs start attacking you. Of course, I crave all the bad stuff: chocolate, ice cream, cheesecake....the works.

I've become borderline addicted to P90x, a set of exercise DVDs that are designed to work out every muscle in your body. I do the cardio one on "off" days, so I'm not sure if I'll be "fit in 90 days" like the good ol' infomercial says. The Windsor Pilates DVD is also very effective!

During the summer, I worked out at the gym and ran outside. But let's face it. I'm completely gross when I exercise. No cute gym clothes/neon sports bras/high cut track shorts/flattering headbands/make up. Just sweat and a ratty, faded t-shirt with oversized pants. I'm doing the world a favor by going the DVD route.

Also, after all of my research in magazines and through my own experimentation, I found certain foods that serve as great snacks and curb appetite:
*Almonds (our parents were on to something....)
*Celery (this bothers some people because it is a bit plain, but drizzled with balsamic vinegarette, it's actually quite tasty)
*Low fat string cheese
*Apples (the sliced ones in the grocery store are very convenient)
*Low fat Yoplait yogurts