Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Kristin Davis created a new line at Belk! It is a little old for my taste, but the clothes are very classy and definitely have the Charlotte feel to them. I love the way she dresses! You know when there are certain things you aspire to have as you grow older? When it comes to fashion, Ann Taylor and the Kristin Davis line are on my list.
Speaking of celebrities with great style, Kim Kardashian definitely deserves props. YAY for girls who embrace curves!!!
Okay, maybe it's just me, but children seem to be becoming more spoiled by the day. Parents seem to be afraid of disciplining their children and encourage the breeding of these tiny prince and princesses, who only grow up to be self-centered brats.
Today, I was going to peacefully explore the semi-annual sale at Victoria's Secret. Of course, the store is filled with gorgeous trophy moms wishing to do the same.
Except they can't do the same, because of their rambunctious children, screaming for attention all over the place.
Did children become worse over the past decade, or has my patience level just dwindled? All I know is that no matter how cute you think your kid is, nobody finds it adorable when he/she yelps all over a store during an otherwise peaceful afternoon.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Today, I got into a discussion with a fellow girlfriend about this topic. She was convinced that people cannot, and will not, change.
I'm not sure it is such a black and white statement. I have seen people evolve over the years, seen life splash different colors on them, seen them turn into swans from ugly ducklings....
I'll even go as far to say that somebody's "fundamental" core can transform. It all depends on the trigger for the change, rather than the change itself.
We'd all be lying if we said our relationships haven't altered us in some way or another. True, this is the inevitable way of nature, but my dad gave me wonderful advice about a year ago. "Don't ever be with someone in the hopes of anything changing." His statement was pertaining to marriage, but I think it applies for pre-marital relationships as well.
Even though men have changed for women, it is when they themselves are determined to. What I've learned is that suggesting/asking/pleading/forcing anyone to change will never work. They have to want it before anything will happen.
Monday, June 8, 2009
I used to think that certain people were needy. Period. Absolutely needy.
But now I'm not so sure. Neediness may be more of a relative term. I think I have a magnet for clingy people. Or maybe I make them clingy. I'm not sure which one is worse.
Timing is also a huge factor. A lot of my girlfriends have complained of needy boyfriends in the beginning of the relationship, but as time went on, it wore off. But then there are my other girlfriends who claim themselves to be the needy one---throughout the length of the relationship.
Let's just make one thing clear: neediness, from anyone, is unappealing.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
The other night at Primal, girls could receive a complimentary pair of shoes from Fergie's new shoe line.
Now, I love Fergie's music, but I am having issues with celebrities opening all these lines. Why? Because those products are rarely ever that great.
When did starting lines become the thing to do?
On a happier note, I am catching up on about five years of pleasure reading! It is truly an indulgence. I have started reading Jane Green's books. Check them out if you haven't already!
The first one I read was Jemima J, an endearing and hilarious story about an overweight girl who longs to be thin.
Next, I'll finish Second Chance, before moving on to re-read Their Eyes Were Watching God.
It seems as though we are constantly looking for things to complete us.
We believe that if we just had that one particular piece in place, happiness is achieved and our current life puzzle is assembled. Everyone does it. After all, we're only human. It is embedded in our nature to want more and be insatiable.
For my perpetual single friends, it is the boyfriend card. Then there is that other breed of girls who feel validated when they receive attention from the opposite sex.
On the other hand, some of my taken friends depend on their significant others for completion.
I, like a lot of girls, have been guilty of finding a sense of finish in all of these respects, and another one. I have somehow convinced myself that a cute outfit or trendy handbag will ensure me a great time at the next social event.
Whether it's that boyfriend, compliment, confidence, outfit, weight, or accomplishment, everyone has entities they think are essential for their own consummation. When these things finally arrive, they serve to provide a false, transient layer of happiness. Eventually, they will pass and then we are only left with ourselves.
Maybe it would be to our advantage to let all of those things be there for the purpose they are there for and nothing more. If we find true completion and happiness inside of us, then it can never be lost.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
One of my favorite English professors, Dr. Elayan, claimed that most, if not all, women wanted men who were assholes. Why? Because they provided challenge. Because women want to overcome that challenge and change them.
But is it really that simple? Is it all just a puzzle that females hope to solve? Or does the asshole guy spark women in ways nothing and no one else can?
Perhaps the asshole makes things exciting, uncertain...keeps a girl on her toes. After all, which girl doesn't enjoy that type of turbulence?
But then I wonder if it simply can be explained by evolution. Maybe the traits associated with an "asshole" are the traits that were essential to the survival of ancient man. Maybe women, as a species, are not evolved enough for the "non-asshole" man.
Everyday is a learning process as I begin to bring my novel to life. Becoming a writer has added new colors to me. I look at life differently; see every social interaction as a reflection of the human condition that can somehow be echoed through my words. Writing is helping me stay in touch with the innermost workings of humanity.
It fascinates me how we can find our callings in so many different ways. Some of us seem to just know, since the days we ran around the playground. Others explore many different routes in order to end up at the destination they are meant to be at.
Instead of being something that I thought I wanted to do, completing my novel is turning out to be something I absolutely have to do.
In other, more shallow news, I spent a portion of today afternoon watching The Hills Wedding Special. I am fascinated by how these shows can generate so much revenue and buzz. Does it appeal to an innermost part of us? Or is it just mindless enough to serve as an escape from our reality?