This weekend has been perfect for unwinding from the first couple weeks of January. Yesterday, I went to an adorable hole-in-the-wall restaurant with two girlfriends. We talked until the restaurant closed! The conversation went in so many directions and one theme that kept unearthing was uncertainty.
I realized that at one point, I used to take so much pride in having a plan:
Oh, I will be married to this guy at this age
I will choose this career and start it right after college and love it forever
I will have 2.5 kids and live in a suburb
But the past couple of years have taught me how to be uncomfortable with uncertainty, to appreciate its transience, its fickle way of emerging and playing peek-a-boo.
Being uncertain can maybe even say more than being certain.
If I know why something rattles me or just doesn't sit well with me, then maybe that's a loud scream for reflection. It can be difficult to also understand the future weight of our decisions. Sometimes, certain things seem like such a big deal, and then a few years go by and we realize that they weren't that life threatening at all!
Now, after reading a lot of your wonderful blogs, I'd also like to bring up the issue of certainty. Or rather, confidence.
Another girlfriend of mine was talking to me about her career aspirations. At one point she said, "I know I'm smart."
I found it quite liberating that she was aware of her own intelligence. She did not compare herself to anyone else or say a single word beyond that. And well, she is smart. Very smart. I'm glad she knows that.
As writers, we have to be our own sources of confidence. I know we're always looking for constructive critiques and ways to cultivate the craft but....
why don't we give ourselves some credit for how far we have come?
There is no need to always downplay!
So, my questions today are,
What do you like about your writing? What is your favorite thing about the last piece you wrote?
What is a positive quality you know you have?
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