Monday, November 18, 2013

If I Knew Then What I Knew Now

1. My good friend Sherwin once said, "With any relationship in your life, remember there's always someone who can take your place." Her point was that any relationship can atrophy without effort. 

2. Someday, you'll appreciate the beauty in letting go. 

3. There's something about December that feels like a boulder at the very top of a hill, seconds from rushing down. The moment before momentum.

4. See that first draft you've got there? It's about 40 drafts away from what it will be someday. Embrace that. Don't prioritize some preconceived deadline over potential.

5. Find gratitude in absence. The people you've let go of have made your life better----simply by not being a part it.

6. Some of your happiest and proudest moments will be secrets.

7. Put in time towards your friendships. Make a phone call. Send a handwritten card. Surprise someone with flowers on their birthday. Show up.

8. Spend years cultivating your voice. Repeat.

9. Remember that every human being has something to teach you.

10. Allow yourself to be excited about things that have already happened. In moderation, looking back is one of the best ways to learn.

11. Don't forget the three P's for any goal: Patience, Priorities, Plans.

*This post is an addition to a series about what I'd tell my younger self**

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

An insightful quote from an insightful writer

*I'm not doing NaNo but will continue to share thoughts on writing (and other facets of life, of course). Tonight, though, I'd like to share this quote by Alice Walker. It's true for anyone.

Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we don’t even recognize that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book or a person who explained to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger, spiritually, than we were before. Whenever we grow, we tend to feel it, as a young seed must feel the weight and inertia of the earth as it seeks to break out of its shell on its way to becoming a plant. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing what is happening. Those long periods when something inside ourselves seems to be waiting, holding its breath, unsure about what the next step should be, eventually become the periods we wait for, for it is in those periods that we realize that we are being prepared for the next phase of our life and that, in all probability, a new level of the personality is about to be revealed.”

                                           Alice Walker, Living by the Word