Tuesday, March 4, 2014

taking the scenic route and befriending uncertainty



Edit: When I wrote this post, I didn't realize it was time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group, a group created by the incredible Alex!  This group is a wonderful place to offer support and encouragement to other writers while also sharing some struggles and insights of your own. 

In a lot of ways, I've been a late bloomer. For some reason, I have trouble accepting this when it comes to writing. I set deadlines and make plans and become frustrated when things don't go according to schedule.

One thing writing has given me is a better relationship with uncertainty. Years ago, uncertainty was a mysterious stranger, someone I was content with not knowing, someone I actively avoided. Now, uncertainty has become the best type of friend: challenging but constant, exciting but stable. 

In medicine, there's more or less a set route with training. Medical school, residency, fellowship, then practice. But with art, there is no route. As it turns out, there's nothing more liberating than surrendering.

I have to learn to give my goals wiggle room. To remember that time is never wasted if it's spent in practice and everything is practice. 

Now, when people ask me what I think I'll be in several years, I'm happy to say I don't have a plan. There are a lot of virtues I hope to accomplish but there are many routes to get there. Some might come quickly. Some might take triple the time. Some might not happen at all. 

How do you deal with uncertainty in life? 


*Also, this Brain Pickings article describes the importance of uncertainty much better than I ever could: 


“The job — as well as the plight, and the unexpected joy — of the artist is to embrace uncertainty, to be sharpened and honed by it,”   Dani Shapiro



*And of course, a quote by the incredible DVF: 

“I didn't know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the woman I wanted to be.”



15 comments:

  1. You're right, with art nothing is certain. It's expression, and how can you measure and schedule that?

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  2. What a great post. I'm a "late bloomer" when it comes to writing and for a long time I was angry at myself for not figuring things out sooner. But now I realize that everything does count as practice!
    Great to meet you through the IWSG. :)

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  3. Can plan and plan and plan, but it can change on a dime and we must change with it

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  4. Hi Saumya, just stopping by to say how delightful your blog is. Thanks so much for sharing. I have recently found your blog and am now following you, and will visit often. Please stop by my blog and perhaps you would like to follow me also. Have a wonderful day. Hugs, Chris
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    1. Hi, Chris! Thank you so much for stopping by and I'm excited to follow you as well!

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  5. Hello! Wonderfully worded and I love that last quote. Is DVF Diane Von Furstenberg?

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    1. Hi! Thank you and yes, that is her :)

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  6. Just love this: "There are a lot of virtues I hope to accomplish but there are many routes to get there." - yes and yes! And those two quotes! Off to copy them now. It is hard embracing uncertainty, but when you recognize it as a help instead of hindrance, what an eye opener!

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    1. Ah, Margo, you always articulate what I'm trying to say!

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  7. thats rather uncertain about being wright about left!

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  8. There is beauty in it, the not knowing. A sweetness that presses on you like a slap, or a caress depending on how far you lean into it. Sometimes, you just have to let go, and enjoy the fall without worrying about what lies at the bottom or how hard the stop. Breathless with wonder...

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  9. Hello, and welcome to IWSG. I am always uncertain and late bloomer too. I am writing my first novel taking it through April NaNo. I am definitely uncertain and nervous about it all. I enjoyed your post. Loved the positive attitude. Happy Writings

    Juneta at Writer's Gambit

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  10. "... time is never wasted if it's spent in practice and everything is practice." That is a wonderful philosophy, Saumy!

    How do I deal with uncertainty? Oh, I wish this wasn't the case, but I worry. ~sigh~

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