Sunday, December 7, 2014

my best friends' weddings

There should be a word that describes the honor, nostalgia, and excitement that comes from watching your dearest friends start their new lives. They all had endearing back stories that were incorporated into their respective weekends: one had known her groom since high school, another was finally ending a long distance relationship, and another had that Corey and Topanga meant-to-be feel from the beginning. 

 I was a bridesmaid five times and sang, danced, and spoke at each wedding.  I'm so lucky to have been a part of these beautiful weekends.  Here are some things I learned:

-Have tissues, bobby pins, and the bride's lipstick ready in a tiny kit.
-If the professional photographer isn't available, get photos of the bride and each bridesmaid while she's waiting for the ceremony to start. There's a good chance there won't be time to do that later. 
-During that time, take a quick video of her and ask her how she's feeling. Send it to her a couple of weeks later as a surprise. 
-It helps to rehearse a speech with a timer to make sure it doesn't run over 5 minutes (studies have shown that any longer is when most audience members become bored).
-The week of the wedding is often the most stressful for the bride. Call her and ask if she wants any help or just needs to vent.
-Get as much sleep as possible before the weekend!
-If she's overwhelmed, be the person who makes her live in the moment. Rely on other bridesmaids or her family members for last minute logistical issues. 
-Have a couple of bridesmaids available to help the bride get un-ready after the ceremony. Everyone else will likely be eating or caught up with people and she'll need help getting out of her dress and unpinning her hair. 





















11 comments:

  1. Ahhh so funny u posted about this. I was just telling Ankit about all of ur beautiful performances this summer. U were a perfect bridesmaid and we loved ur singing and dancing and speaking. A woman of many talents, for sure. How is ur planning going????!!!!

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  2. Thanks so much! I had such a great time. My parents and I joked about how everyone is probably sick of seeing my face on stage, haha. Planning is going very well. Thanks for asking

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  3. Such beautiful photographs! I have rarely attended weddings and every one my family has had (mine included) was very minimal at the courthouse.

    I hope, when your day arrives, it is as glorious as you deserve.

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    1. Thanks, Jennifer. You are always so sweet.

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  4. Beautiful you, and the beautiful bride/ friend of yours. Good suggestions!

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    1. Thank you! All of the brides looked amazing!

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  5. Wow, those were all very beautiful weddings!

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    1. Yes, these ladies know how to put on gorgeous events :)

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  6. saum, you should get prettiest med student award

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  7. The food was clearly fantastic, we were there for over three hours, and some of the guests were before that too. I had a salad with added shrimp and absolutely loved it!

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  8. Love it Saumlal! Cant wait for yours and miss you so much!

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