I loved this recent Modern Love column by Tim Boomer about dating and small talk. I have friends who meet people through dating apps/mutual friends/random encounters and they all say some variation of the same thing:
Small talk is tedious. Awkward. It doesn't allow you to get to know somebody well at all.
I wonder how different things would be if we were introduced to someone and jumped right into the "bigger" topics.
"Why can’t we replace small talk with big talk and ask each other profound questions right from the start? Replace mindless chatter about commuting times with a conversation about our weightiest beliefs and most potent fears? Questions that reveal who we are and where we want to go?"